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Any one else looking for work? The industry I am currently in is going through tremendous changes, and I truly hope no one else is negatively affected, either in the industry or as a result of any transactions.

For me, though, the question has been stay or leave for a while. The answer is in the question. Helping people is such a great way to go through life. There’s something about this business (or some of the people in it) that I just don’t click with.

I am not sure where I am headed, but would love to be completely on my own, again. I also love working with other people, when there’s an environment of respect. That shouldn’t be too hard to find. Communication is key, and honesty.

Being able to ask someone something and have them respond in a way that keeps the conversation going until there’s a mutual understanding can cure the world’s ills. Something just happened with a couple of friends that reminded me of this. As one says, it’s an itch I can’t quite scratch. Relationships change, and that’s fine. We’re all here to take care of ourselves, and if that means cutting someone out for some reason, don’t pretend you’re not doing that. It makes people crazy to give them mixed messages. That applies to business relationships as well as friendships.

I’ve spent so many hours in sales trainings that teach how to not let that happen, to have up front contracts with people that allow them to freely leave and do business elsewhere. The agreement is that they will tell me that they are going, and that it will be fine. Clients have left and not one has announced that they were leaving. All of the time, not to mention the money, put into training and seminars and paying attention to someone’s website and constant messages, when I could just be working and being productive. Alright, there are things to learn from these pros, and sometimes I look back at some of this stuff and wish I had not done what they’ve suggested. Something about spending 5 or 6 grand on a system, and wanting to believe it’s the magic key…I think I’ve learned my lesson. Not to say I won’t attend seminars or join organizations again, I will. I will not blindly do something that I’ve been told to do. I know I lost one of my best clients by stupidly phoning him from a seminar and asking for a referral. This is what we were told to do by the host. Once I had my client on the phone I felt like a total jerk. This was not the way to do it, personally unprepared, the seminar’s system too generic to work. 

Went to another seminar a couple of weeks ago, and thought the guy was great! It has happened before that the first half of the seminar seems flawless, and I can’t wait to sign up. What is it about the second half, that there is some strange, slight inconsistancy, some story that makes you want to say, ’wait, you’re blowing it’. This recent one went into a personal story that would have been profound had I not already heard that personal story at another seminar, by another company person selling a different system.  Last time that happened, the second half goof, I bought anyway and obviously haven’t forgotten about it, and am no longer a member there, either.

So, the point? I really get it that it is my, and only my, responsibility to take care of me. No one else is going to do it. To get what I want there very well may be a more direct route than passing the Go of the newest star in the market and passing out a few K for promises from them that only I can fulfill.